There are some goodbyes the world doesn’t quite know how to hold.
If you’ve ever lost a pet—a companion, a soul-friend, a quiet presence who followed you from room to room—you know this kind of grief. And you’ve probably also learned how invisible it can be.
People may say, “They were just an animal.”
Or, “You can always get another one.”
But those who’ve truly bonded with an animal know: It wasn’t just a pet. It was family. Safety. Comfort. The first one you saw in the morning and the last one you said goodnight to.
And when they’re gone, the silence is unbearable.
More Than “Just a Pet”: Why the Grief Hits So Deeply
Pets love us without condition. They don’t care what we look like, what job we have, or what mistakes we’ve made. They just love—and in doing so, they become our calm, our grounding, our sanctuary.
So when they die—whether suddenly or after a long illness—it can feel like a part of you has gone missing.
You might find yourself:
- Crying unexpectedly when their bowl is still on the floor.
- Avoiding the route you used to walk together.
- Feeling guilty about “what ifs” or choices made in their final days.
- Struggling to sleep or feeling numb.
- Hearing the jingle of their collar in your mind, long after they’re gone.
All of this is real. And it deserves to be honoured.
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The Loneliness of Pet Loss
One of the hardest parts of losing a pet is that your grief often doesn’t have a place to go. There’s no funeral to organise, no leave from work, no steady stream of sympathy cards.
Many clients I’ve worked with have told me, “I feel like I should be over this,” or “I don’t want to bother anyone with this kind of sadness.”
But grief doesn’t work on a hierarchy. Love is love. Loss is loss.
And when you’ve shared your days—and sometimes your darkest nights—with a creature who knew your heart, it’s okay if your heart breaks when they go.
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When Grief Brings the Past to the Surface
For many, the death of a beloved animal companion doesn’t just stir grief—it stirs everything. Old wounds, past losses, unprocessed childhood grief, even relationship dynamics can all re-emerge.
Why? Because pets are often present through significant moments in our lives—breakups, moves, illness, loneliness. They become part of our emotional fabric. When they leave, the memories of what they carried with us come rushing back too.
Healing Through Telling the Story
At Past2Present Counselling and Psychotherapy Services, I hold space for grief of every kind—including the grief of losing a pet. Whether it happened recently or years ago, your story matters.
In therapy, we may explore:
- The unique bond you had and what they meant to you.
- The pain of letting go or decisions around euthanasia.
- Guilt, anger, or numbness.
- Ways to honour their memory without pushing yourself to “move on.”
Because the truth is—we don’t move on from those we love. We learn to carry their memory differently. And sometimes, we need help learning how.
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Final Thoughts
If you’re missing them right now—missing the thump of their tail, the warmth of their fur, their weight next to you on the bed—know this: your grief is not “too much.” It’s a reflection of the love you gave, and the love you received in return.
You don’t need to grieve in silence.
Whether you’re in the early days of loss, or still feeling the ache years later, I’m here to listen—to hold space for the untold story of the animal you loved and lost.
You’re not alone.
